THE HIGHWAYMAN CAME RIDING,
RIDING, RIDING
A Widow Bit – Feb. 13, 2011
By MARY KOCH

            Valentine’s Day has a way of creeping up on you. Saturday I teased a friend in front of his wife about getting his Valentine’s Day shopping done.

            “When is that, anyway?” he asked. She rolled her eyes.

            On a certain level, I knew V Day was approaching. I’d signed up to provide goodies for the church coffee hour, thinking it would be fun to make chocolate cupcakes. It wasn’t until I was embedding those little heart candies (“BE MINE,” “AWE SOME,” “IM YOURS,” [sic]) into the chocolate frosting that the reality of Valentine’s Day closed in.

            Romance is the reality, and in my life, romance is firmly, happily lodged in the past.

            “Stop saying that! Keep an open mind,” scold various friends, especially those who have been widowed after long, happy marriages and then happily remarried.

            I do have an open mind. If romance wants to catch me by surprise, so be it. But boy, am I not looking for it. The thought of merely going on a date makes me cringe. I’m apparently not alone. The Sunday paper, in an article about “mature singles,” quotes a new Match.com survey that reported older singles like me (age 65-plus) have the highest level of happiness and are less stressed by their single status than their younger counterparts. However, “intimacy [AKA sex] remains important to older folks.” Well, yes and no. I would just say my intimacy standards are higher than they were when I was younger.

            After church and chocolate cupcakes, I took my dog to the cemetery with faint hopes of finding signs of growth from the bulbs I planted by John’s grave last fall. I’d heard reports of daffodils beginning to sprout, thanks to our unseasonable sun and warmth.

            No green blades coming up yet, but the cemetery’s still a great place for a walk. I passed the new grave of a well-known community member, the freshly dug earth still bare. I thought of his wife, who will be without him on Valentine’s Day for the first time in many decades. She has a large family and will be surrounded by love, but she will be alone in a way that no widow can escape.

            As I drove away from the cemetery, the radio was broadcasting a folk song version of the old poem, “The Highwayman,” one of John’s favorites. During our courtship he made a tape, reciting it for me. It’s the melancholy story of two star-crossed lovers who die violently, yet through legend, their love survives their deaths. When the song finished, the DJ admitted to choking up every time he plays it.

            I will spend the evening of Valentine’s Day with the new young man in my life. He’s an accomplished 9-year-old violinist, I’m his new accompanist, and his dad is dropping him off so we can rehearse together. After he goes home, I’ll probably play John’s “Highwayman” tape, choke up a little myself, and celebrate that love indeed has a way of surviving death.


The Highwayman

By Alfred Noyes

The wind was a torrent of darkness upon the gusty trees,
The moon was a ghostly galleon tossed upon cloudy seas,
The road was a ribbon of moonlight looping the purple moor,
And the highwayman came riding--
Riding--riding--
The highwayman came riding, up to the old inn door.

He'd a French cocked hat on his forehead, and a bunch of lace at his chin;
He'd a coat of the claret velvet, and breeches of fine doe-skin.
They fitted with never a wrinkle; his boots were up to his thigh!
And he rode with a jeweled twinkle--
His rapier hilt a-twinkle--
His pistol butts a-twinkle, under the jeweled sky.

Over the cobbles he clattered and clashed in the dark inn-yard,
He tapped with his whip on the shutters, but all was locked and barred,
He whistled a tune to the window, and who should be waiting there
But the landlord's black-eyed daughter--
Bess, the landlord's daughter--
Plaiting a dark red love-knot into her long black hair.

Dark in the dark old inn-yard a stable-wicket creaked
Where Tim, the ostler listened--his face was white and peaked--
His eyes were hollows of madness, his hair like mouldy hay,
But he loved the landlord's daughter--
The landlord's black-eyed daughter;
Dumb as a dog he listened, and he heard the robber say:

"One kiss, my bonny sweetheart; I'm after a prize tonight,
But I shall be back with the yellow gold before the morning light.
Yet if they press me sharply, and harry me through the day,
Then look for me by moonlight,
Watch for me by moonlight,
I'll come to thee by moonlight, though hell should bar the way."

He stood upright in the stirrups; he scarce could reach her hand,
But she loosened her hair in the casement! His face burnt like a brand
As the sweet black waves of perfume came tumbling o'er his breast,
Then he kissed its waves in the moonlight
(O sweet black waves in the moonlight!),
And he tugged at his reins in the moonlight, and galloped away to the west.

He did not come in the dawning; he did not come at noon.
And out of the tawny sunset, before the rise of the moon,
When the road was a gypsy's ribbon over the purple moor,
The redcoat troops came marching--
Marching--marching--
King George's men came marching, up to the old inn-door.

They said no word to the landlord; they drank his ale instead,
But they gagged his daughter and bound her to the foot of her narrow bed.
Two of them knelt at her casement, with muskets by their side;
There was Death at every window,
And Hell at one dark window,
For Bess could see, through her casement, the road that he would ride.

They had bound her up at attention, with many a sniggering jest!
They had tied a rifle beside her, with the barrel beneath her breast!
"Now keep good watch!" and they kissed her. She heard the dead man say,
"Look for me by moonlight,
Watch for me by moonlight,
I'll come to thee by moonlight, though Hell should bar the way."

She twisted her hands behind her, but all the knots held good!
She writhed her hands till her fingers were wet with sweat or blood!
They stretched and strained in the darkness, and the hours crawled by like years,
Till, on the stroke of midnight,
Cold on the stroke of midnight,
The tip of one finger touched it! The trigger at least was hers!

The tip of one finger touched it, she strove no more for the rest;
Up, she stood up at attention, with the barrel beneath her breast.
She would not risk their hearing, she would not strive again,
For the road lay bare in the moonlight,
Blank and bare in the moonlight,
And the blood in her veins, in the moonlight, throbbed to her love's refrain.

Tlot tlot, tlot tlot! Had they heard it? The horse-hooves, ringing clear;
Tlot tlot, tlot tlot, in the distance! Were they deaf that they did not hear?
Down the ribbon of moonlight, over the brow of the hill,
The highwayman came riding--
Riding--riding--
The redcoats looked to their priming! She stood up straight and still.

Tlot tlot, in the frosty silence! Tlot tlot, in the echoing night!
Nearer he came and nearer! Her face was like a light!
Her eyes grew wide for a moment, she drew one last deep breath,
Then her finger moved in the moonlight--
Her musket shattered the moonlight--
Shattered her breast in the moonlight and warned him--with her death.

He turned, he spurred to the West; he did not know who stood
Bowed, with her head o'er the casement, drenched in her own red blood!
Not till the dawn did he hear it, and his face grew grey to hear
How Bess, the landlord's daughter,
The landlord's black-eyed daughter,
Had watched for her love in the moonlight, and died in the darkness there.

Back, he spurred like a madman, shrieking a curse to the sky,
With the white road smoking behind him and his rapier brandished high!
Blood-red were his spurs in the golden noon, wine-red was his velvet coat
When they shot him down in the highway,
Down like a dog in the highway,
And he lay in his blood in the highway, with the bunch of lace at his throat.

And still on a winter's night, they say, when the wind is in the trees,
When the moon is a ghostly galleon tossed upon cloudy seas,
When the road is a gypsy's ribbon looping the purple moor,
The highwayman comes riding--
Riding--riding--
The highwayman comes riding, up to the old inn-door.


Over the cobbles he clatters and clangs in the dark inn-yard,
He taps with his whip on the shutters, but all is locked and barred,
He whistles a tune to the window, and who should be waiting there
But the landlord's black-eyed daughter--
Bess, the landlord's daughter--
Plaiting a dark red love-knot into her long black hair.