FAITH AND FAMILIARITY
GET US THROUGH THE LONG HAUL
Journal of Healing – Sept. 21, 2005

By Mary Koch

            Ten hours in the driver’s seat allows ample time for thought. Long-haul truck drivers must be quite the philosophers. Except, of course, for the one who cut me off by Keechelus Lake. And the one who tried to eat my bumper on Blewett Pass.

            We – my husband, his aide Marlenea and I – made the trip to Pugetopolis last week to see a therapist and then back again all in one day. I never used to think I could handle marathon jaunts like that, but each one makes the next more do-able.

            For one thing, the road has become oh so familiar. I wonder how many hundreds of times I’ve driven that route since I moved more than 26 years ago from what my husband liked to call the “soggy climes” of Puget Sound to sunny eastern Washington. One winter alone accounted for several dozen trips along I-90 to SR 97 and home. Then back again to Seattle where John was in rehabilitation after his stroke. Months of lonely commuting and a lot of thinking.

My familiarity with this route allows me to know which radio station will replace the one that just faded out, which latte stands have the freshest coffee and which restrooms are cleanest.

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TO KNOW the road is to feel secure. You know which curves will require a brake and which ones will let you just float. You know how soon the highway will straighten out so the vehicle tailing you can pass – and you pray the driver will wait until then.

I drive at the speed limit, no less, no more. I’d like to drive slower because every bump and curve reverberates through John’s wheelchair, making the ride much rougher for him. But if you drive below the speed limit, you have to pull off to let traffic past, and getting to the side of the road means even more jostling.

            There are memories at almost every mile post, especially memories from before the stroke. Here’s where we landed in a ditch one icy, winter night. Two guys in a pickup truck stopped moments later, pulled us out and refused any payment other than a “thank you.” Here’s where we just missed hitting a deer one balmy summer evening. She was nearly close enough to lick John’s elbow resting on the open window.

            Memories include disastrous accidents that we’ve come across or read about. On this trip we drove past remains of the massive rockslide on Snoqualmie Pass and breathed a prayer for the grieving families of three young women who had been killed there one day earlier. We had no idea, and neither did the state highway officials, that in just a few hours another 10-ton boulder would thunder onto the roadway. Miraculously, no one was hurt in the second slide.

            “Cheated death again,” John used to quip when we pulled into the driveway after each trip.

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            WE’RE ON THE last leg of our journey now, and it’s late night. Behind every set of headlights are thousands of pounds of steel, hurtling in our direction, controlled by a total stranger. My life, my future and the safety of my passengers depend entirely on our trust that the stranger is not drunk, not suicidal and not about to doze off and veer into our lane.

            It isn’t the three-dollar gasoline, the eight-cylinder engine or the all-weather tires that carry us along the road. It’s our faith.

If you don’t believe you’re a person of faith, just get behind the wheel of your car and think about it for a while.

  © Mary Koch, Omak, Washington 2005

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